Getting To Know More About Al-Anon
Al-Anon is support groups all over the world that where people affected by alcoholism in one way or another meet to share experiences and help each other. Groups like these have been formed with the sole aim of being beneficial and therapeutic to such families.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 as an organization for providing support to friends and relatives of drunkards. This organization was founded by Lois Wilson, who is also popular by the name of Lois W and Al Anon came into being 16 years after the formation of Alcoholics Anonymous [AA] by her husband. She herself faced the challenge of supporting a convalescent alcoholic, so, she created an organization aimed at people with the same problem. Al-Anon is an organization which supports itself through donations provided by members. There are meetings available through the assistance of family members and friends of alcoholics to cope with and better serve the interests of their loved ones even if they are in different stages of recovery.
To assist members by having them understand they aren't alone in their struggle, is the principal target of Al-Anon.
Alcoholism Affecting The Whole Family
The people close to the alcoholic person are also affected in one way or the other and Al-Anon seeks to help them also overcome the challenge they might be facing. The recovery process is a joint effort and the family members and other people close to the addict must be involved.
Lack of understanding the cause of their loved one's drinking problem makes family members suffer self-condemnation and also not know how to deal with the problem. During the Al-Anon gathering, people are educated about taking alcoholism not as a one person problem but as a joint issue in the family.
Alateen- Al-Anon Meetings Intended For Teenagers
Al-Anon is also home for a group which is identified as Alateen and is catering to youngsters that are affected by alcoholism within their family.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
The Advantages Of Al-Anon Group
Members benefit from Al-Anon because they are introduced to many people and families who suffer from alcoholism. All members have worked through some issues though the details may differ. With this program, you get to share experiences with people who have faced situations similar to yours. There are Al-Anon meetings available all across our country. Phone us on 0800 246 1509 , and we'll help you find the one near you.
What You Should Anticipate From A Meeting
If you know someone who is an alcoholic, then Al-Anon is the best place for you. You just need to identify whether the alcoholism of a particular individual is concerning you and make it known it is affecting your lifestyle, and rest assured that Al-Anon can provide the assistance you need.
People always fear the unknown, and so the first meeting at Al-Anon is bound to be a challenge. When thinking of attending a meeting, some things should be kept in mind:
- Al-Anon is an anonymous group, and this can be considered as extremely important
- Whether personally or through a family member, everyone in each meeting has been impacted by alcoholism
- While members are encouraged to speak up and discuss their problem, they are under no obligation to do so
- The Meetings Usually Vary
- Some may be more beneficial for you than others.
- Al-Anon is by no means a religious organization
- Al-Anon meetings follow the 12 Step program
Al -Anon meetings permit attendees to "take what they like and leave the rest", being conducted under a mantra. Thus, meetings put an increased focus on talking about experiences and hardships rather than telling attendees what to do.
Al-Anon 12 Steps
The recovery stages are outlined before the meeting starts. The 12 steps were adapted from the AA 12 Step program. An Al-Anon member is required to take on a sponsor who will help them work through the program and provide support when needed. The 12 Steps are as follows:
- We admit that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Members learn to accept alcoholism as a disease they cannot control in others.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- members also learn they are driving themselves crazy by trying to change or control another person.
- After they admit they are powerless, they learn how to accept that they can be helped to regain their sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
- Carry out a thorough and undaunted moral inventory of ourselves.
- Self-discovery plays a huge role in making the steps; and this is its beginning.
- The members make a list of things they did or said to themselves and their loved ones that are painful or harmful.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to others human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Thats a study of each listing in the group members moral inventory, which enables them to delve into each problem.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- This is a very important step, as it is the complete acceptance of the process of recovery supported by a Higher Power.
- Humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings.
- Members are assisted by this part of the 12 Steps to understand how they may have been dominating or judgmental toward an addict and how that is counterproductive.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- The road to recovery is a personal effort.
- Many people blame themselves for their loved ones addiction.
- They must be willing and prepared to forgive themselves and to make amends.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- The next step is to take action, after you agree to make changes.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Going through the 12 Steps is a process that takes time.
- Members are ready with an inventory, yet making an error is common.
- It s usually a duration and this is outlined by stage 10.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- This is a step that is personal and spiritual to encompass acceptance and comfort amid the stress of recovery.
- Having experienced a spiritual awakening thanks to these steps, we tried to spread the word to other people, and to always practice these principles.
- This stage appreciates the fact that the process is long and doesnt end after a while.
- It is a support group and members get to assist other members get through the whole process.
What Is Higher Power
Members recognise there is a spiritual power that helps them to recover. However, the notion of "higher power" can be interpreted depending on one's personal beliefs. Members of all religions and beliefs are accepted at Al-Anon and none is coerced to change their beliefs.