Most of the people, find it very easy getting off alcohol and other drugs and it's not the hardest part for them to overcome an addiction.
It's having to live without the drugs and the alcohol forever that is the challenge. One of the many reasons for this is the fact that now you have to deal with the pain you have been running away from. The pain may have been a resultant effect of child abuse, abandonment, the loss of a loved one, being lesbian or gay and living in a homophobic society. However hard these situations are under normal circumstances, they are even more difficult if a person is in recovery from substance abuse as well. When a pattern of abusing has been created, regardless of the causes that spurred the substance abuse, you might be unfamiliar with other ways to live your life, especially to overcome traumatic situations. Dealing with the issues that hide behind the addiction using methods such as problem-solving skills and coping methods may feel like something unattainable.
You may be flooded with an avalanche of painful emotions if you stop using alcohol or drugs, particularly after the long history of substance abuse. If you believe that this is what sobriety will always be like or if you don't know or weren't prepared for these emotions, this experience can be very hard to handle. Despite the best of intentions no wonder so many people run back to the drugs or bottle. If these are familiar things to you, finding help is advised. Try to discover ways to slow down the release of pent up emotions if you want to feel the pace in a more manageable way or not as overwhelming.
After withdrawal, many sink into a profound depression. You may "crash" coming off if the alcohol and drugs were propping you up.
It doesn't only appear to be overwhelming but discouraging too since you probably desired that life would get better. Even so, don't throw in the towel. It will.
This the time when you need to find and hold on to hope by collecting information about the process. Hearing from others who have gone through a similar thing and managed to come out victorious can help. Maybe not right now, but surely very soon, you will have something to be pleased about and you will have a desire to know what else can happen. There are many things that will change as soon as you regain your confidence and learn to love and respect yourself once again.
All the people are different and there are some approaches that often help while people recovering from alcohol or drugs don't all respond to the same therapeutic approach.
At the very start, as a coping method, many people need a very pragmatic and realistic one.
This involves learning practical options for:
You can support the crucial element of recovery, honesty, by going with a realistic attitude. That means avoiding things that sound great and sticking to things that you know you can accomplish. You can encourage yourself to do a little more, but don't set yourself up to fail. You should not be creating a plan or contract that sounds unrealistic because it is the last thing you need and will leave you telling lies or feeling ashamed that you are unable to manage it. Staying realistic means that you need to work on some of the troubles before stopping substance abuse while you slowly decrease your alcohol or drug intake. Or, to completely stop. The right road to go is the one that suits you the most.
To remain clear of drug or alcohol you might do a more extensive healing job or do a longer term.
This can include dealing with emotional, sexual, physical or ritual abuse; feelings of a great loss, chronic disease or death; being left as a child; feeling embarrassed or unsure about your sexual orientation; being brought up in an alcoholic or similarly dysfunctional family, etc. For many, this might also mean dealing with an abusive or missing partner or any other current living condition.
Dealing with these issues is not a small matter and it may require the intervention of a professional such as a psychotherapist in a one to one or group setting. While without doing this deeper work some people remain alcohol and drug-free, but others can't. Many people usually find out that their initial alcohol or drug addiction stemmed from other issues they were not aware of. The need to rely on drugs or alcohol might be decreased by dealing with these problems.
Facing these hurtful problems will commonly be painful before it starts getting better, just like with overcoming substance abuse. At first, you may feel as though you're getting worse, but the long-term gains, such as enjoying life more fully, feeling good about yourself, and feeling more alive, free and happy are worth the hard work.
It is rather tempting to make the comment that there is only one way to get off alcohol and drugs. The idea that there is a single solution that will work for anyone is tantalizing. However, life and human beings are never as simple as that. I have come across a number of people who have become alcohol and drug free among others who drastically reduced their consumption by using a variety of methods. Ultimately, you must be prepared to trust your intuition, which will be deep inside of you. If something feels right there is no harm in trying it out. It could be the first step to a life free of addictions.