The Insanity of Alcoholism Sadly, support people that strive to preserve the alcoholic from the individual or attempt to express what they will do next.
There are a number of wise Proverbs among alcoholics who are in various stages of recovery. Some of them are supposed to make you think and others are supposed to be taken very precisely. Alcoholics anonymous refers to this phenomenon as "the insanity of our disease." This particular saying is meant to be taken very literally. I can speak with you about comprehending the active alcoholic, however I can't make it have a meaning to you since comprehending the active alcoholic needs to be stripping away many sensible thought, the acceptance and enthusiasm to learn from errors, the capacity to identify understandable patterns of behavior, and very frequently, the use of common sense.
Alcohol dependency comes in very many shapes and forms. The conscious alcohol user, who is completely active, and has never experienced grievous loss, is the person I am referring to here. They will end up losing these aspects over time because of alcohol dependence and the rule of threes indicates a grey and enduring prediction (prison, clinic, and / or passing away). Altered awareness of themselves and the surroundings is the foundation to alcoholic thinking, acting, and beliefs.
Their world is a pendulum that swings between having it all and having nothing. There is not a way in between, no control, and no balance. Alteration of their understanding is what alcoholics perceive because they are in an existence of refusal that they are harmful to themselves and others.
Alcoholics are experts at rationalizing and Justifying such that they come to accept lies as the truth and this is what makes them very good liars. This is often a subconscious behaviour.
They are not aware that they are messing around with their lives.
Alcoholics are experts at adopting a language which facilitates their lying in a manner, which sounds well-intentioned. "Probably" is the preferred word. The word implies intention while, in reality, none exist. An alcohol addict that says he will most likely act in certain manner will in most case not do it. Using these words, they create a loophole for themselves, which resembles an escape hatch where no absolutes are provided and no promises made. Such words like I need to, I want to, I'd like to, should, could, would, maybe, and probably are the alcoholic's best friends. These words have no meaning. The way they sound is positive but the true intention is not there. With the passage of time alcoholism blurs every line and impacts every interaction, relationship and every part to the alcoholic's world.
Most of the alcoholics will tell you that the horse will not see properly when blinders are placed on it. Although they may be able to work on various things on a given day, working on any one thing will require that they turn their attention away from other things.
The job of multitasking for an alcoholic simply means making a mess of everything at the same time. The active alcoholic cannot concentrate. They will tend to concentrate on something specific and take it to the maximum limit. As this occurs, every step they take is connected to the most serious issues making their existence a sort of "firehouse management" because another aspect of their life fails. Although many alcoholics can keep this up for a long time, the downward trend that follows is unavoidable.
When alcoholics tend to drink excessively they will generally be looking forward to concealing the frequency and the quantity of alcohol they drink. You will be factually informed that they only took three glasses of wine. However they haven't said that every glass was a 16 ounce tumbler. By indulging in such actions alcoholics do not understand that while their problem with the drinking remains hidden there also making an attempt to hide the negative effects of alcohol within their lives. "An external locus of control" is what therapist call the phenomenon alcoholics generate. They will start blaming other people for all their problems as time goes on. In case their job isn't going well it's due to the fact that their employer dislike them. They will call their partners unreasonable when they have marital issues. Whenever they don't succeed as parents, they will see as it's their kids's fault for being selfish.
An excuse for a glass is to blame on everything and everyone.The prevalent saying from them will be that they have been pushed into drinking by their job and family problems, even when they have no intention of drinking.
An extreme sense of entitlement is not unusual in alcoholics. For them, their immature, selfish and irresponsible actions are justified by the stress and hard times they experience in life. When observing the behaviour of an alcoholic it is easy to conclude and come to a belief that the entire world must owe them something. The active alcoholic becomes very involved in self-pity and confirms tat they are sufferer of life. Since they request more from the world, they hope less and less from themselves.
The word "Screw it" is actually their fastest path to destroying themselves. This basically states that as everything is going adversely, hence them drinking shouldn't be an issue. When alcoholics decide to give up on their habit, we encourage them to notice that "it" is, in reality "me." This is evident in "it's not worth it." The alcohol addict is constantly living in self-denial although they are aware of reality. They pretend and demand that all is well and try to convince those close to them into buying the fantasy. Their daily routine becomes less about the normality about life and more about focusing on their appearances. "Family Portrait", a song by Pink, properly elaborates this. "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal '"
Alcoholics are considered as master manipulators and despite not having been con artists before they develop the problem of alcoholism, they display remarkable skills at manipulation. They are the ones that can convince everything, even selling ice to Eskimos. They will make you think you are responsible for an argument they started because they wish to go. They do not believe in being accountable for anything. Before developing their habit with alcoholism they may have had the integrity, but it will be conspicuously absent from their lives as their habit progresses. Every alcoholic has a single exception to this rule, which is one thing which they do exceptionally well, and it will in most cases be their sole-source of self-esteem. We have contacts with numerous alcoholics who have incredible work ethics because being a good worker is one thing they know they are good at - well, they will say that and begin drinking.
Alcoholism is a sickness that slowly takes everything away from the addict We have received numerous inquiries about whether alcoholism is, in reality, a disease or a choice. The fact is that it is both. The fact that alcoholism can hide itself from others and also from the carrier is what makes it a unique disease. Even when afflicted with this disease, there is an aspect of choice that is not there in other diseases. It is common to notice an alcoholic goes into remission at any time like numerous others do. It has often been observed that alcoholics will abstain from the substance for some time in order to prove to themselves, and the others that they are not addicted but will return with a vengeance at a later date.
Retrieval from alcoholism includes more than abstinence. Every part of an individual's life will undergo a change when he or she is looking forward to recovering from alcoholism. A "dry drunk" is the person that simply quits drinking but they are still not well as they've only given up the glass, not many people can do this on the long run. My professional opinion states that real recovery is only made possible by the program adopted by alcoholics anonymous. The benefit of the AA program cannot be overemphasized and they could be improved with several innovations. People in recovery will need the support of family and friends. Unfortunately, I come across a number of friends and families who are unwittingly enabling [protecting the alcoholic from the natural consequences to their behaviour] the alcoholic and this inevitably result in the individual continuing to remain with the addiction.